Speaking with Confidence Anytime, Any Situation
Your success depends on your capacity to communicate with an audience. Speaking well can make you more useful to your employer, earn you the respect and admiration of others, and attract the attention of those who can aid you and open doors for you. People who hear you talk well will also believe that you are more talented and intelligent than those who do not.
What is the most precious thing you own? your head Your capacity for clear thought and expression is one of your most priceless assets. As much as any other talent you can develop, this skill can help you earn more money and advance in your career more quickly. After all, the only way you can show that you understand a subject is by expressing your ideas and views in a clear and concise manner, both verbally and in writing. People often remark, “He really knows what he’s talking about,” when you speak well.
Your mind is similar to a muscle, which is excellent news. With use, it gets stronger and more effective. You become more alert and conscious of what you are saying and how you are expressing it when you have organized your thoughts and words in advance. Planning, preparing, and giving talks and presentations forces you to use your mind more actively, which really increases your intelligence.
Get rid of your fear and boost your career.
I once conducted a one-day executive effectiveness session for a group of businesspeople. I emphasized the value of speaking clearly and influencing others during the presentation.
A somewhat reserved businessman approached me at the conclusion of the day and said that, as a result of my remarks, he had resolved to become a better speaker. He was sick of being overlooked for advancements and neglected by his superiors.
I got a letter from him outlining his tale a year later. He had carried out his resolution right away. He joined a Toastmasters club in his area and started going to weekly sessions. Each member was forced to speak during each meeting on a specific topic, and at the conclusion of each meeting, they were each given a grade.
The technique of “systematic desensitization” is employed by Toastmasters. This implies that doing something repeatedly will eventually cause desensitization. You gradually get over your anxieties and reservations when you speak in front of others on a regular basis.
Additionally, he completed a 14-week Dale Carnegie course. He had to speak in front of his peers throughout every session. After giving numerous lengthy and brief presentations to welcoming groups of peers over the course of six months, the majority of his nervousness and anxiety about public speaking vanished. It was replaced by an increasing assurance in his ability to communicate with an audience.
Opening Doors for You
Approximately at this time in his growth and development, his engineering firm was dealing with a little emergency. One of the partners was slated to address the staff of a Korindo Careers company in a presentation. But due to illness, the partner was unable to attend the meeting.
The businessman’s manager requested that he develop and provide the company’s proposal in its place. He agreed to take on the task. He spent the entire evening and the next morning getting ready. After that, he went to the client’s office, gave a fantastic pitch for the firm’s services, and won the client over.
When he got back to work, his boss informed him that the president of the potential client had called to praise him for sending someone to make such a strong case for the firm’s offerings.
Within a few weeks, he was routinely dispatched to call on the company’s potential clients and prospects. He received one promotion before receiving another. He quickly advanced to senior management and was headed toward partnership. He claimed that after deciding to become a better speaker and taking concrete steps to achieve that goal, his entire life was transformed.
Boost your confidence
You will benefit from developing your public speaking skills in many facets of your profession. But there’s an even more significant reason to master public speaking. According to psychologists, the quality of your inner and outer lives is primarily influenced by your level of self-esteem, sometimes known as “how much you like yourself.”
The better and more effective you are as a speaker, the more fun you have. The more content you are with who you are, the more upbeat and assured you become. The more confident and approachable you feel about yourself, the better you interact with other people. You become healthier, happier, and more optimistic in all you do, the more you like who you are.
Boost your self-concept.
Speaking more persuasively helps you feel better about yourself. Your “inner mirror” is how you view yourself. It’s how you view and perceive yourself before, during, and after any experience.
Your performance will be more competent as your self-image improves.Prior to any event or activity, simply seeing yourself performing at your best will enhance your performance.
We are all extremely perceptive to other people’s opinions, sentiments, and especially their respect. “Everything we do in life is to earn the respect of others, or at the very least, not to lose their respect,” Somerset Maugham once said. Your audience will therefore like and respect you more when you talk well. As a result, you also respect and appreciate yourself more. Speaking well results in positive feedback from other people, which boosts your confidence. You have a more favorable self-perception and self-concept. You start to feel more powerful. You appear more certain when you move, talk, and behave.
You can improve your speaking skills.
The fact that public speaking is a skill that can be learned is maybe the nicest thing about it. Most people who can talk well today couldn’t lead silent prayer in a phone booth a generation ago. Many people who come across as confident and articulate in front of an audience formerly shuddered at the thought of getting up and speaking in front of others.
Being in the top 10 percent of communicators should be your aim. And you should constantly remind yourself that nearly everyone in today’s top 10% began in the bottom 10%. Everyone who is now successful was previously unsuccessful. Every master, in the words of Harv Eker, was once a disaster. Most likely, you have heard the adage “practice makes perfect.”
Some go even further and assert that perfect practice eventually leads to perfection. But the truth is that practice really does make perfect. You will make a lot of tiny and big blunders as you work toward mastering the art of public speaking. You’ll frequently experience anxiety and insecurity. You’ll forget to say the appropriate things and say the incorrect ones. You’ll stumble and mumble while questioning your ability to ever succeed.
Break free from your comfort zone.
However, in order to flourish in speaking or any other subject, you must be prepared to leave your comfort zone and enter your discomfort zone. If you want to ever reach a greater level of competency, you have to be willing to experience growing pains and awkwardness.
You may recall the tale of Demosthenes, a celebrated Greek orator who was regarded as one of the greatest speakers in ancient times.
He had a stutter and a speech impairment when he first started, and he was also apprehensive and hesitant. However, he was determined to talk clearly. He shouted aloud to the sea for hours each day while holding pebbles in his mouth to help him get through his challenges. He eventually got rid of his stutter and speaking impediment. His voice got stronger, louder, and more assured. He rose to prominence as one of history’s greatest orators.
This book will show you how to speed up the process of speaking with competence, confidence, and clarity if you are a beginning speaker. If you are a more seasoned speaker, this book will provide you with some of the most effective strategies, techniques, and tactics used by great speakers in every sphere of business, politics, and daily life.
The Four Ds of Excellent Speaking
You must possess the four Ds in order to be a great speaker.
- The wish. To communicate well, you must first have a strong, burning passion. Nothing can stop you if you want to improve your public speaking skills badly enough and for a long enough time.But having the desire is insufficient.
- Choice. You must decide right now that you will exert every effort, surmount every challenge, and go to any length to achieve excellence.
- Self-control. You must have the perseverance to repeatedly plan, prepare, and deliver talks and presentations until you master them. There are no short cuts to working hard to acquire a necessary skill.
- Enthusiasm. The ability to persist and persevere in the face of any temporary setbacks, difficulties, or humiliations is the last requirement.
Only you may set limits.
Our own worries and doubts are always our worst enemies. However, except for the restrictions you set for yourself, there are no restrictions on what you can do, be, or have.
I have given more than 4,000 talks throughout the years and personally addressed more than 5,000,000 individuals in 46 different countries. I’ll take you by the hand and walk you through the process of developing the courage, confidence, and expertise necessary to be a persuasive speaker in any circumstance in the pages that follow.